In this thread I'm NOT actually saying anything new or contradictory just offering a different perception. I'm doing so because for me the standard descriptions no longer helped. I felt I WAS doing what they described and felt myself to be doing what they described.
Just a tiny remark. How about feeling the difference from doing that
and not doing that
? May be you're not doing the described exactly, but you should feel a difference and than can possibly decide better if you're on the way to do the described...